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some bad, but mostly good.
Apr. 21st, 2009 04:53 pmI had an incident while driving today -and thankfully after discussing it with a few other people, it seems I was in the right. (I kept worrying that I somehow messed up and I am willing to own up to messing up while driving.)
I was yielding to another driver, but I didn't need to stop. (there was no stop sign and at the speed he was going I calculated that I wouldn't have to come to a complete stop and I was signaling as to which direction I was going so everyone would hopefully be aware) He slowed down some more, so I was going to come to a complete stop because I wouldn't have been able to follow him immediately/safely. He then stops and starts shouting at me. And I thought there was some confusion and I kept gesturing for him to go -because he had the right to go ahead of me. He kept shouting. So I roll down my window. He proceeds to tell me how I am a bad bad Mother and I was endangering my child with my driving. I said, "thank you for your concern -but you have the right to go. You should go. We can talk about this else where if you want." But he was more concerned with telling me how I should have my kid taken away because I am a bad Mother. It was like we were having two conversations. (I thought about asking him if he spoke French or Russian or something..) And the fact of the matter is that it crushed me inside to be called a bad Mother. I may not be a great/perfect Mother, but I sure as hell would never endanger my child's life. I am an overly-cautious driver I admit; especially when it comes to my kid being in the car. Christ, I won't start the car unless everyone is buckled in. I don't even do rolling right turn on red stops anymore. Even when I have the right of way I am careful and watch to make sure everyone else is paying attention.
But to be called a bad Mother -I almost wanted to jump out of the car and beat that man to death with his own shoes. I nearly cried. I kept saying, "fine. fine...BUT GO you are holding up the line." Eventually the crotchety man drove off in his big important car.
It really upset me. Thankfully Mr. Jenner reassured me that I wasn't a bad Mother or an awful driver. I even looked up online about yielding and all that jazz in the state of Washington, so that I hadn't messed up by accident. As others have said, this grumpy dude obviously had other things going on and took it out on me.
Thankfully this guy didn't ruin my entire day. It has been a good one. I took Senor Onion out for Free Cone Day!!!! He got to meet this nice older lesbian couple with a couple of neat dogs. They thought he was too adorable (he smiled a lot and showed off his matching band-aids) And their dogs were very friendly and amused Senor Onion. Later on he and I sat out in the sun eating ice cream and getting messy. He had strawberry and I have chocolate fudge brownie. We watched people. He pointed out every "big bus" that went by. People on bicycles and more dogs. It was a good day in Seattle. We then had a nice walk in the sun -despite sticky hands/face. It was a good, "in the moment" for the both of us. I hope that after Baby Biscuit is born, we can keep up with that now and then.
We had a good trip to the museum this morning. Played with all the exhibits, danced around like nerds and despite falling and scraping his knees on the way home, it was a pleasant morning. Besides he now has matching Snoopy band-aids. He is a fashion-plate.
I think for dinner there will be salmon. And I will take some of the home-made yogurt and make some kind of sauce to go with it.
I was yielding to another driver, but I didn't need to stop. (there was no stop sign and at the speed he was going I calculated that I wouldn't have to come to a complete stop and I was signaling as to which direction I was going so everyone would hopefully be aware) He slowed down some more, so I was going to come to a complete stop because I wouldn't have been able to follow him immediately/safely. He then stops and starts shouting at me. And I thought there was some confusion and I kept gesturing for him to go -because he had the right to go ahead of me. He kept shouting. So I roll down my window. He proceeds to tell me how I am a bad bad Mother and I was endangering my child with my driving. I said, "thank you for your concern -but you have the right to go. You should go. We can talk about this else where if you want." But he was more concerned with telling me how I should have my kid taken away because I am a bad Mother. It was like we were having two conversations. (I thought about asking him if he spoke French or Russian or something..) And the fact of the matter is that it crushed me inside to be called a bad Mother. I may not be a great/perfect Mother, but I sure as hell would never endanger my child's life. I am an overly-cautious driver I admit; especially when it comes to my kid being in the car. Christ, I won't start the car unless everyone is buckled in. I don't even do rolling right turn on red stops anymore. Even when I have the right of way I am careful and watch to make sure everyone else is paying attention.
But to be called a bad Mother -I almost wanted to jump out of the car and beat that man to death with his own shoes. I nearly cried. I kept saying, "fine. fine...BUT GO you are holding up the line." Eventually the crotchety man drove off in his big important car.
It really upset me. Thankfully Mr. Jenner reassured me that I wasn't a bad Mother or an awful driver. I even looked up online about yielding and all that jazz in the state of Washington, so that I hadn't messed up by accident. As others have said, this grumpy dude obviously had other things going on and took it out on me.
Thankfully this guy didn't ruin my entire day. It has been a good one. I took Senor Onion out for Free Cone Day!!!! He got to meet this nice older lesbian couple with a couple of neat dogs. They thought he was too adorable (he smiled a lot and showed off his matching band-aids) And their dogs were very friendly and amused Senor Onion. Later on he and I sat out in the sun eating ice cream and getting messy. He had strawberry and I have chocolate fudge brownie. We watched people. He pointed out every "big bus" that went by. People on bicycles and more dogs. It was a good day in Seattle. We then had a nice walk in the sun -despite sticky hands/face. It was a good, "in the moment" for the both of us. I hope that after Baby Biscuit is born, we can keep up with that now and then.
We had a good trip to the museum this morning. Played with all the exhibits, danced around like nerds and despite falling and scraping his knees on the way home, it was a pleasant morning. Besides he now has matching Snoopy band-aids. He is a fashion-plate.
I think for dinner there will be salmon. And I will take some of the home-made yogurt and make some kind of sauce to go with it.
