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one of those sad shitty posts
Oct. 30th, 2015 12:43 amSomeone I used to know a long time ago was murdered this weekend. I wasn't FB friends with her, (and hadn't spoken to her in years) but once in a great while I might see her commenting on a mutual friend's page.
And there are people who were still friends with her, who are hurting a lot. So much that I wish I could fly half-way around the world to hug them.
I read a bit about the man who killed her. (it was a murder-suicide situation.) He had a really ugly history with domestic violence. An ex girlfriend, and an ex wife (who later became close because of this shared history) spoke of how he was initially charismatic and wonderful and then that dark ugly side came out. And on those rare occasions when this horrible behavior was reported he would get a tiny bit of jail time before being out there again. Manipulating and being violent to more women.
When I read this, I felt that tired sad feeling. Another woman murdered because a man was filled with rage that he couldn't possess her. Another woman murdered because he didn't want to consider her humanity or free agency. Another woman murdered. Yeah a lot of men are perfectly lovely and civilized (Mr. Jenner is one of the best. He should teach a master class in being a kind and loving human.) but dammit dudes... you guys need to do something about the rest of those violent fuckers out there that are giving most of you a bad rep. I am so tired. I am so tired of watching rage filled guys harm women and girls. I am tired of these rage filled guys going after women on the internet because that woman has her own agenda and opinion and life. I am so tired of women and girls spending their lives carefully thinking about how to stay safe when they do something as simple as go for a walk to the corner store because some rage filled guy thinks he has the right to invade her space.
A life of "don't be this. Don't be that. Just be smaller. Just be quieter. Just do what I say. Give me this. Give me that. Me Me Me. Why aren't you that."
Stop taking our souls. Stop stepping on our spirits. Stop taking our lives.
And there are people who were still friends with her, who are hurting a lot. So much that I wish I could fly half-way around the world to hug them.
I read a bit about the man who killed her. (it was a murder-suicide situation.) He had a really ugly history with domestic violence. An ex girlfriend, and an ex wife (who later became close because of this shared history) spoke of how he was initially charismatic and wonderful and then that dark ugly side came out. And on those rare occasions when this horrible behavior was reported he would get a tiny bit of jail time before being out there again. Manipulating and being violent to more women.
When I read this, I felt that tired sad feeling. Another woman murdered because a man was filled with rage that he couldn't possess her. Another woman murdered because he didn't want to consider her humanity or free agency. Another woman murdered. Yeah a lot of men are perfectly lovely and civilized (Mr. Jenner is one of the best. He should teach a master class in being a kind and loving human.) but dammit dudes... you guys need to do something about the rest of those violent fuckers out there that are giving most of you a bad rep. I am so tired. I am so tired of watching rage filled guys harm women and girls. I am tired of these rage filled guys going after women on the internet because that woman has her own agenda and opinion and life. I am so tired of women and girls spending their lives carefully thinking about how to stay safe when they do something as simple as go for a walk to the corner store because some rage filled guy thinks he has the right to invade her space.
A life of "don't be this. Don't be that. Just be smaller. Just be quieter. Just do what I say. Give me this. Give me that. Me Me Me. Why aren't you that."
Stop taking our souls. Stop stepping on our spirits. Stop taking our lives.
