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Mar. 1st, 2016 04:44 pmI had my ears pierced when I was a baby. It was a cultural thing and I don't think my Mom was horrible for doing that. I don't really have an opinion about it. I have always had my ears pierced, I look damn good with earrings in, and I don't have any issue with it. I didn't pierce my daughter's ears. I decided that it would be up to her to decide when she wanted to do it.
Well.. here we are. She has a classmate who had it done, and another classmate was talking about it as well and of course Miss Biscuit has asked about it. I really believe in a kid having autonomy over their body. Obviously they can't get tattoos and I don't want them to be harmed/in physical danger, but if a kid wants to dye their hair, get a piercing, wear the clothes they want, or not hug anyone I am a-okay with that.
I am kind of holding her off at the moment because a piercing is a serious thing to take on if you are a kid or an adult. I explained that she should do some research on ear piercings so that she understands what would be going on. That it would hurt, that it involves some care afterwards because you don't want infections and most importantly you want it done by a professional in a good environment. I suggested maybe it would be a good treat for her seventh birthday. (which is in September)
I know Mr. Jenner has his own opinions about ear piercings and the like. I know that British perception on such things has a lot of class prejudice behind it. That's right I am slagging off the middle class again. Bless 'em. It is kind of like how historically it was the upper classes and the working poor that had tattoos. Shaw nailed this one so well. (middle class morality: if you are lucky, you are too poor to afford it, or you are too rich to be bothered with such a boring thing.)
Anyhow, it is interesting to have these things presented to me as a parent. The practical vs. the theoretical.
I had parent/teacher consults yesterday. Same as always. Senor Onion is kind of sensitive, crazy smart, and gets contrary when he wants control of a situation. (just like his mom) Miss Biscuit is a delight, ridiculously smart and a future world leader. Both want to be the very very best at everything. I nod and say, "yeah... I just want them to be happy and kind."
Tonight we shall have tacos. Because it is Tuesday and there are rules to adhere to. Just ask the children. "MOMMMMMM It is TUESDAY." I get it kids.
Well.. here we are. She has a classmate who had it done, and another classmate was talking about it as well and of course Miss Biscuit has asked about it. I really believe in a kid having autonomy over their body. Obviously they can't get tattoos and I don't want them to be harmed/in physical danger, but if a kid wants to dye their hair, get a piercing, wear the clothes they want, or not hug anyone I am a-okay with that.
I am kind of holding her off at the moment because a piercing is a serious thing to take on if you are a kid or an adult. I explained that she should do some research on ear piercings so that she understands what would be going on. That it would hurt, that it involves some care afterwards because you don't want infections and most importantly you want it done by a professional in a good environment. I suggested maybe it would be a good treat for her seventh birthday. (which is in September)
I know Mr. Jenner has his own opinions about ear piercings and the like. I know that British perception on such things has a lot of class prejudice behind it. That's right I am slagging off the middle class again. Bless 'em. It is kind of like how historically it was the upper classes and the working poor that had tattoos. Shaw nailed this one so well. (middle class morality: if you are lucky, you are too poor to afford it, or you are too rich to be bothered with such a boring thing.)
Anyhow, it is interesting to have these things presented to me as a parent. The practical vs. the theoretical.
I had parent/teacher consults yesterday. Same as always. Senor Onion is kind of sensitive, crazy smart, and gets contrary when he wants control of a situation. (just like his mom) Miss Biscuit is a delight, ridiculously smart and a future world leader. Both want to be the very very best at everything. I nod and say, "yeah... I just want them to be happy and kind."
Tonight we shall have tacos. Because it is Tuesday and there are rules to adhere to. Just ask the children. "MOMMMMMM It is TUESDAY." I get it kids.
