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It's all good. DAMMIT
Oct. 23rd, 2011 10:36 amWe were talking with my inlaws this morning on Skype. (the kids chat weekly with Nana and sometimes we say hi and all that jazz) the subject of our impending move came up and that set us off on a whole conversation of logistics. This is like a conversation about whether we should go for a walk or not (and should we take sandwiches or go to the pub) but on steroids.
Mr. Jenner's Father, the very kind Dr. Jenner likes to worry. I sometimes think about taking my old supply of zoloft and slipping some into his coffee. It would take the edge off. Today he decided to worry about whether we will be able to find a place to rent or not. "Oh you better start looking now, do you think you it is even possible to find something? I bet holiday people will take all the houses." Chill Dr. J.
Mr. Jenner pointed out, "What is available now will not be available when we need a house." Still Dr. J worried. I finally told him that I had a weekly email alert to tell me about new properties so I can see what sort of houses are available and that when we get closer to the moving date that I will move it up to everyday so that we will be able to find a house and it will be cool." That calmed him for a bit. I told him, "Don't worry about it. It will work out." My Mother and sister inlaw have also agreed to look at places for us and let us know what a house might be hiding in the photos. I've thought about this. I want Dr. J to know that my anxiety is well matched with his in that I know how to organize this stuff.
Then the conversation shifted toward "OMG how are you going to pay for all that stuff to be moved? What are you thinking?" and we had to chill them once again. Dr. J found another way to worry -WHAT ABOUT A CAR. We told him our plan and gave him a task. Something to set his mind at ease. We figured he can keep an eye out for a car that suits our needs. He doesn't need to travel to Aberdeen or something to find THE CAR but hey if on a trip to the feed store he sees something -let us know and we will talk. He also offered to come and pick us up from the airport. He can spend his time worrying about when to leave for the airport and so on. That will keep him busy. I am sure he will leave three days before we arrive because OH MY there might be road works at Totnes and well you know Heathrow is actually somewhere in outer Mongolia.
Really there was a lot of, "It's Cool. We've Got THIS!"
Hrm. I am thinking the key to dealing with the English besides my usual unilateral approach of, "Get your boots on. We are walking to the beach. And we will have sandwiches. Now stop faffing. The tide is rising." is to delegate the anxiety. "You there. Worry about the sandwiches. But only worry whether we will have enough pickle and cheese." "You there, your job is to make sure everyone has boots."
Of course after this whole conversation, Mr. Jenner began to worry about what needs to be done over the next few months. I was riding high on this whole business and said, "Okay here is our plan for how we will sort through things over the next few months. This is your job. This is my job. SHIT WILL BE DONE"
Then there was a whole quibble about the breakdown of luggage/car seats when we fly. I sorted that shit out and ta-da things are decided.
Yep
Mr. Jenner's Father, the very kind Dr. Jenner likes to worry. I sometimes think about taking my old supply of zoloft and slipping some into his coffee. It would take the edge off. Today he decided to worry about whether we will be able to find a place to rent or not. "Oh you better start looking now, do you think you it is even possible to find something? I bet holiday people will take all the houses." Chill Dr. J.
Mr. Jenner pointed out, "What is available now will not be available when we need a house." Still Dr. J worried. I finally told him that I had a weekly email alert to tell me about new properties so I can see what sort of houses are available and that when we get closer to the moving date that I will move it up to everyday so that we will be able to find a house and it will be cool." That calmed him for a bit. I told him, "Don't worry about it. It will work out." My Mother and sister inlaw have also agreed to look at places for us and let us know what a house might be hiding in the photos. I've thought about this. I want Dr. J to know that my anxiety is well matched with his in that I know how to organize this stuff.
Then the conversation shifted toward "OMG how are you going to pay for all that stuff to be moved? What are you thinking?" and we had to chill them once again. Dr. J found another way to worry -WHAT ABOUT A CAR. We told him our plan and gave him a task. Something to set his mind at ease. We figured he can keep an eye out for a car that suits our needs. He doesn't need to travel to Aberdeen or something to find THE CAR but hey if on a trip to the feed store he sees something -let us know and we will talk. He also offered to come and pick us up from the airport. He can spend his time worrying about when to leave for the airport and so on. That will keep him busy. I am sure he will leave three days before we arrive because OH MY there might be road works at Totnes and well you know Heathrow is actually somewhere in outer Mongolia.
Really there was a lot of, "It's Cool. We've Got THIS!"
Hrm. I am thinking the key to dealing with the English besides my usual unilateral approach of, "Get your boots on. We are walking to the beach. And we will have sandwiches. Now stop faffing. The tide is rising." is to delegate the anxiety. "You there. Worry about the sandwiches. But only worry whether we will have enough pickle and cheese." "You there, your job is to make sure everyone has boots."
Of course after this whole conversation, Mr. Jenner began to worry about what needs to be done over the next few months. I was riding high on this whole business and said, "Okay here is our plan for how we will sort through things over the next few months. This is your job. This is my job. SHIT WILL BE DONE"
Then there was a whole quibble about the breakdown of luggage/car seats when we fly. I sorted that shit out and ta-da things are decided.
Yep
