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It was a better day for Senor Onion. Mr. Jenner spent some time last night talking with him (not to him) and playing in his room. He said it took a bit to get beyond the "I don't want to talk about it" response but after awhile Senor Onion was open to listening and sharing his feelings. I realized that there is a theme with Senor Onion when you call him on his actions. He tries to justify under the heading of "well I am a bad guy." Or "I am a grown-up, not a kid." or "I'm a policeman. You are going to jail." He is trying to control the situation, even if it means being contrary. He becomes really upset when he can't control how things are going to go. So we have to kind of push through that and get to the point where he realizes his place in everything and the responsibility he has to take.
While he is good with the upcoming move (and we do talk about it and the ups and downs about this move) and a lot of other things in his life, I suspect that the world is kind of out of his control and he freaks easily. He is about to finish preschool and will be starting "big kid" school in the Fall, he has his first loose tooth, he is moving far away and will have a new bedroom (though I am making a point to keep certain things the same.) and he probably wants control over one thing.
Then there are his friends at school. He and the other little boy do have their run-ins. I realize that the other kid also has the habit of fixating on something and as a kid with spectrum issues, he doesn't have an easy time with it and so he clashes with Senor Onion. I mention this because when I came in and did a little observing, we sat down to circle time and the kid announces, "Senor Onion kicked me today." I had been with Senor Onion the entire time and A.my kid had not kicked this kid and B.Senor Onion had not been anywhere near this kid. I pointed out to the kid, "that isn't true. Are you confusing it with the fact that Senor Onion may have kicked you yesterday?" He said, "NO, Senor Onion kicked me today." I pointed out again that this wasn't true. He was so held to this truth and I talked about that with the teacher. She was going to keep an eye on those two to see what was actually happening.
Senor Onion had a great day at school after I left. He spent much of free choice building the world's longest railroad track with one of the girls. This particular girl has a really good relationship with him. They play incredibly well together. She is one of the oldest girls in the class and is a natural leader. In general he plays better with the girls. (different dynamics going on with co-ed play) The teacher said he had a wonderful time, he concentrated on playing and enjoyed himself a lot. Another day. Another personality.
In the mean time I am going to eat some biscuits and drink some tea.
While he is good with the upcoming move (and we do talk about it and the ups and downs about this move) and a lot of other things in his life, I suspect that the world is kind of out of his control and he freaks easily. He is about to finish preschool and will be starting "big kid" school in the Fall, he has his first loose tooth, he is moving far away and will have a new bedroom (though I am making a point to keep certain things the same.) and he probably wants control over one thing.
Then there are his friends at school. He and the other little boy do have their run-ins. I realize that the other kid also has the habit of fixating on something and as a kid with spectrum issues, he doesn't have an easy time with it and so he clashes with Senor Onion. I mention this because when I came in and did a little observing, we sat down to circle time and the kid announces, "Senor Onion kicked me today." I had been with Senor Onion the entire time and A.my kid had not kicked this kid and B.Senor Onion had not been anywhere near this kid. I pointed out to the kid, "that isn't true. Are you confusing it with the fact that Senor Onion may have kicked you yesterday?" He said, "NO, Senor Onion kicked me today." I pointed out again that this wasn't true. He was so held to this truth and I talked about that with the teacher. She was going to keep an eye on those two to see what was actually happening.
Senor Onion had a great day at school after I left. He spent much of free choice building the world's longest railroad track with one of the girls. This particular girl has a really good relationship with him. They play incredibly well together. She is one of the oldest girls in the class and is a natural leader. In general he plays better with the girls. (different dynamics going on with co-ed play) The teacher said he had a wonderful time, he concentrated on playing and enjoyed himself a lot. Another day. Another personality.
In the mean time I am going to eat some biscuits and drink some tea.
